bad friendship and hating pets.

the bf and i had another discussion about his  hatred towards pets… ironic, since he can easily identify cuteness (if we see pictures or videos of cute animals, baby animals, babies… etc) i think it comes down to control. see, he likes animals that are kept in cages, and says that having a baby is better because they grow up to become productive members of society (or so we think/hope… of course we want what’s best for them). i think he hates the idea of taking care of the bigger pets because it’s an idea that they mooch from us and we become their slaves (feeding, petting, grooming and the like). /sigh. i still want more when i get into the position to do so.

as for the bad friendship? he still wants to be friends (not friendly, mind you) with the man who abuses his girlfriend and baby, and beat me to the floor. i had told him he couldn’t talk to the guy for a month or so, or hang out with him, what have you…. but in my opinion, i shouldn’t have had to tell him at all. it should be in the nature of every man, that if another man lays a finger on his girl, they are no longer friends. not to mention the fact that he apparently does it to his OWN girlfriend on a regular basis- to me all my bf is doing is condoning the violence because he does nothing about it.

none of this guys friends do…. why? cause he’s seemingly generous in every way… weed, beer, open door policy… yeah, he expects payback now and again… but when you’re as much of a drunk and p othead as most of the folks this guy hangs out with… it’s easy to turn a blind eye, or to just leave when things get crappy. which is just the same as saying , “i’m ok with what you do as long as i don’t see it.”

maybe some of it is from my being jaded, because very few people even attempted to stop the abuse in my home growing up… but i don’t want to sit by and watch it happen, and i expect the same of others.

unfortunately, denial is much easier.

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